My college roommate died of an aortic aneurysm several weeks ago. I went to the funeral, said a couple words and all was fine. Now, I find myself really sad about his absence. I mean, he was a scoundrel. He lied and cheated and partied, like all of us. But he was hilarious and smart and a great athelete and the world is a lesser place with him gone. I have had others die of drugs, but this was faulty anatomy that got him. Something that's probably been there since birth. So, how do I stop thinking about my own mortality? How do I stop feeling sad?
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The same thing happened to me and it just took time. I have gotten over things fast when I stepped outside myself and helped others. So do some vounteer work, give time to a charity, help a kid (his kid?). To honor him keep telling stories. Remember all of who he was. Laugh at what happened when you were together and see a doctor. You don't want to be next.